This post is the first of a three-part series on the effects of gray divorce on divorcing couples, their family members, and friend and support networks.
Divorce is often compared to death. American novelist Pat Conroy wrote, “Divorce has many witnesses, many victims … Each divorce is the death of a small civilization.” American actor and novelist William Shatner said, “Divorce is probably as painful as death.” Author D.A. Wolf wondered why, even though heartbreak accompanies both widowhood and divorce, “we demonstrate more compassion when it comes to the former, though the ghosts of the latter still walk the planet.” Divorcing parents and their family members are the ghosts still walking the planet.
Divorce is the death of a marriage, the death of “couple-hood” and a family living together in one residence. Sadly, the death of extended family, friends, and community networks, gatherings, and traditions often occurs. The death of hopes, plans, and dreams for the future accompanies divorce. Divorce is the rock that drops into life’s lake, and the ripples of grief wash over everyone in the family’s circle.