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Podcasts and Radio Appearances

- The Kids Are Not Alright: Feeling Seen as Adult Children of Divorce

- The Gray Divorce Podcast: Episode 16 Adult Children of Gray Divorce with Dr. Carol Hughes

- When Grandparents Divorce

- Journey Beyond Divorce: The Plight of Adult Children

- Alaska Public Radio: Gray divorce — causes, consequences and prevention

- Doing Divorce Right: Home Will Never Be The Same Again

- Southern California Public Radio: After Gates’ Divorce, We Discuss Rise in ‘Gray Divorce’ And Impact On Adult Children

- TruStoryFM: Navigating Gray Divorce in the Family

- Grey Divorces and Their Impact on Adult Children

- Bloomer Boomer - Home Will Never Be The Same Again

- Why Couldn’t They Just Stay Together with Carol Hughes

- Blended: All You Need Is Love

- The Forgotten Victims of Gray Divorce: The Effects on Adult Children with Hughes and Fredenburg- Why Couldn’t They Just Stay Together with Carol Hughes

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Non-violent Communication and Dispute Resolution

  • Davis, Laura. I Thought We’d Never Speak Again, The Road from Estrangement to Reconciliation, Harper-Collins, 2002.
  • Ellison, Sharon. Taking the War Out of Our Words: The Art of Powerful Non-defensive Communication, Bay Tree Pub, 2002.
  • Fisher, Roger, William Ury, and Bruce Patton. Getting to Yes” Negotiation Agreement Without Giving In., Revised Edition, Penguin Books, 2011.
  • Hart, Sura, and Victoria Kindle Hudson. Respectful Parents Respectful Kids: 7 Keys to Turn Family Conflict into Cooperation, Puddledancer Press, 2006.
  • Mnookin, Robert. Beyond Winning, Harvard University Press, 2000.
  • Rosenberg, Marshall. Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Compassion. Puddledancer Press, 1999.
  • Rosenberg, Marshall. Speak Peace in a World of Conflict: What You Say Next Will Change the World, Puddledancer Press, 2005.
  • Ruiz, Don Miguel. The Four Agreements, Amber-Allen Publishing, 1997.
  • Tannen, Deborah. You Just Don’t Understand, HarperCollins, 1990.

Divorce and Separation

For Parents

  • Ahrons, Constance. The Good Divorce, William Morrow Paperbacks, 1995. 
  • Ahrons, Constance, We’re Still Family, Harper Perennial, 2005.
  • Bonnell, Kare, and Kristin Little. The Coparenting Handbook: Raising Well-adjusted and Resilient Kids from Little Ones to Young Adult Through Separation or Divorce. Sasquatch Books, 2017.
  • Bonnell, Karen, and Patricia Papernow. The Stepfamily Handbook: From Dating to Getting Serious to Becoming a “Blended Family,” Kindle, 2020.
  • Cameron, Nancy J. Collaborative Practice: Deeping the Dialogue. The Continuing Legal Education Society of British Columbia, 2004. 
  • Eddy, Bill. Biff: Quick Responses to High Conflict People, Their Hostile Emails, Personal Attacks and Social Media Meltdowns, High Conflict Institute Press, 2011
  • Eddy, Bill. Don’t Alienate the Kids: Raising Resilient Children While Avoiding High-Conflict Divorce, Second Edition. Unhooked Books, 2020.
  • Eddy, Bill. High Conflict Personalities in Legal Disputes, Kindle Edition, High Conflict Institute Press, 2016
  • Eddy, Bill, It’s All Your Fault: 12 Tips for Managing People Who Blame Others for Everything, High Conflict Institute Press, 2012
  • Eddy, Bill, and Randy Kreger. Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing a Borderline or Narcissist, New Harbinger Publications, 2011. 
  • Emery, Robert. The Truth about Children and Divorce. Plume, 2006.
  • Gaies, Jeremy, and James Morris. Mindful Coparenting: A Child-Friendly Path Through Divorce. 
  • CreateSpace Independent Publishing Platform, 2014.
  • Jenkins, Joryn. War or Peace: avoid the Destruction of Divorce. Joryn Jenkins, 2014.
  • Jenkins, Joryn. I Never Saw My Father Again. Joryn Jenkins, 2015.
  • Papernow, Patricia. Surviving and Thriving in Stepfamily Relationships: What Works and What Doesn’t. Routledge, 2013.
  • Pedro-Carroll, JoAnne. Putting Children First: Proven Parenting Strategies for Helping Children Thrive through Divorce. Avery, 2010.
  • Tesler, Pauline, and Peggy Thompson. Collaborative Divorce: The Revolutionary New Way to Restructure Your Family, Resolve Legal Issues, and Move on with Your Life. William Morrow Paperbacks, 2007.
  • Thayer, Elizabeth, and Jeffrey Zimmerman. The Coparenting Survival Guide. New Harbinger Press, 2001.
  • Wallerstein, Judith, and Sandra Blakeslee. The Unexpected Legacy of  Divorce: The 25 Year Landmark Study. Hatchett Books, 2001.
  • Webb, Stuart and Ron Ousky. The Collaborative Way to Divorce: The Revolutionary Method that Results in Less Stress, Lower Costs, and Happier Kids--Without Going to Court. Plume, 2007.

For Children

  • Blume, Judy. It’s Not the End or the World, Reprint edition. Atheneum Books for Young Readers. 2014. (8 – 12 years)
  • Cain, Barbara. Double-Dip Feelings: Stories to Help Children Understand Emotions. Magination Press; 2nd Revised edition, 2001. (4- 8 years)
  • Cleary, Beverly. Dear Mr. Henshaw. Harper Collins; Reprint edition 2000. (8 – 12 years)
  • Christiansen, C.B. My Mother’s House, My Father’s House. Puffin, 1990 (5 – 10 years)
  • Cruise, Robin. The Top Secret Journal of Fiona Claire Jardin. Hmh Books for Young Readers, 2000. (8 -12)
  • Evens, Maria D. This Is Me and My Two Families. Magination Press, 2000.
  • Ford, Melanie, Annie Steven, and Jann Blackstone-Ford. My Parents Are Divorced Too: A Book Kids by Kids, Second Edition. Imagination Press, 2006. (Ages 10 -13 years)
  • Hoffman, Mary. Boundless Grace. Puffin Books, 2000. (4 – 8 years)
  • Karst, Patrice. The Invisible String. Little, Brown Books for Young Readers; Reprint edition, 2018. (4 – 8 years)
  • Masurel, Claire. My Two Homes. Candlewick; Reprint edition 2003. (3- 7 years)
  • Park, Barbara. Don’t Make Me Smile. Yearling; Reissue edition, 2002.) (8 – 12 years)
  • Ranson, Jeanie Franz. I Don’t Want to Talk About It. Imagination Press, 2009. (4 – 10 years)
  • Ricci, Nina. Mom’s House Dad’s House for Kids: Feeling at Home in One Home or Two. Touchstone, 2006. (5 years and up)
  • Voight, Cynthia. Solitary Blue. Atheneum Books for Young Readers, 2001
  • Winchester, Kent, and Roberta Beyer. What in the World Do You Do, When Your Parents? A Survival Guide for Kids Divorce. Free Spirit Publishing, 2001.

Divorce Recovery

  • Luskin, Fred, Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness. HarperOne, 2003.
  • Naff, Monza, Must We Say We Did Not Love the Need for Divorce Rituals in Our Time. Wyatt-MacKenzie Publishing, Inc., 2008.
  • Thomas, Katherine Woodward. Conscious Uncoupling: 5 Steps to Living Happily Even After. Harmony, 2016.
  • Wilson, Karen Kahn. Transformational Divorce. New Harbinger Publications, 2003.


  • Woodhouse, Violet, and Matthew Perry. Divorce and Money: How to Make the Best Financial Decisions During the Divorce. Nolo Press, 2013.

Parenting – General

  • Dreikurs, Rudolf, and Vicki Stoltz. Children: The Challenge: The Classic Work on Improving Parent-Child Relations--Intelligent, Humane & Eminently Practical. Plume, 1991.
  • Faber, Adele, and Elaine Mazlish. How to Talk So Kids Can Learn: At Home and in School, Schribner, 1996.
  • Faber, Adele, and Elaine Mazlish. How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and How to Listen So Kids Will Talk, Penguin Books, Piccadilly Press Ltd, Schribner 2012.
  • Faber, Adele and Elaine Mazlish. How To Talk So Teens Will Listen and How To Listen So Teens Will Talk, Penguin Books, Piccadilly Press Ltd, 2006.
  • Siegel, Daniel. Parenting from the Inside Out: How a Deeper Self-Understanding Can Help You Raise Children Who Thrive: 10th Anniversary Edition Paperback. TarcherPerigee, 2013.
  • Siegel, Daniel and Tina Payne. No-Drama Discipline: The Whole-Brain Way to Calm the Chaos and Nurture Your Child's Developing Mind. Bantam, Reprint edition, 2016.